How I DID NOT Spend My Summer Vacation

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Our summer officially ends on Monday when the kids return to school. And I couldn’t be more ready for the end of summer and the beginning of fall. By the time the final days of August roll around, everyone in our house is bored, cranky, and ready for a change of pace.  (And by “everyone,” I mostly mean me).

When the kids return to school next week, I’m sure they will be asked to talk about everything they did over their summer break. They’ll get to share all the fun places they went and the people they saw.  And so I’ve been thinking about the things I did this summer and, more importantly, the things I DID NOT DO this summer. For example:

  1. I DID NOT spend my summer writing.  As you have probably noticed, I have not been blogging over the summer. In the last few months, I have not written One. Single. Word. I would like to tell you that I’ve been so busy having an exciting summer that I couldn’t spare one minute to sit down at the computer and write. But the truth is this: I am a terrible multi-tasker. I cannot multi-task to save my life! I can’t talk on the phone and clean my house at the same time. I can’t carry on a conversation while reading Facebook posts. And I can’t write blog posts while refereeing sibling arguments, playing board games, and inventing new ways of keeping three kids occupied while I try to clean up the house. And so, sadly, there hasn’t been much any writing this summer.
  2. I DID NOT spend my summer exercising.  Prior to summer break, I was walking almost every day and tracking my progress with my Fitbit. It was going well and I was feeling good about it. So did I keep it up all summer? Have I been walking 10,000 steps every day? No my friends, I have not. In fact, I became so frustrated by my miserable step count that I hid my Fitbit in my desk drawer! Yes, that’s right…I HID IT! I do realize that some people would have continued to wear the Fitbit every single day, refocused on their exercise goals, and made a greater effort to add more steps throughout their day. I applaud those people. I commend those people. And I intend to be one of those people…beginning Aug. 25th when the kids get back on the school bus.
  3. I DID NOT spend my summer waking up early.  Now that the kids are older, they will actually sleep in most mornings. And that means that I get to sleep in too! Since I’m a night owl, it’s been nice to stay up a little later at night and then sleep in a little later in the morning. We’ll be back to early mornings here in a few days, but it’s been fun while it lasted!

So how did you NOT spend your summer vacation?

Summer Fun

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We still have another week and a half of school remaining, but I know that summer break has already begun for many of you. It’s hard to believe that another school year is coming to an end. Part of me is excited for the relaxed days of summer. No lunches to pack, no early morning wake-ups, and no tightly packed schedule. But the other part of me is dreading those long hot days of sibling fighting and the repeated refrain of those two dreaded words: “I’m bored!!!”

In an attempt to keep the kids busy and limit the amount of whining and complaining, I’ve been trying to plan ahead a little bit. Besides the usual summer camps and swimming lessons, I’ve also been looking for inexpensive ways to fill up our days.

Here are a few things on my list so far:

1)    Summer Movie Programs – A number of movie theaters in our area (Regal and Cinemark, just to name two) offer summer movie programs, when they show a family movie one or two mornings a week for $1 admission. It’s a great way to catch a movie you missed on its first run through the theaters.   Check your local theater for information.

2)    Summer Reading Programs – If you’re looking for ways to keep your kids reading this summer, encourage them to participate in a summer reading program. Many local libraries offer summer reading programs, as does Barnes and Noble.

3)    Arts and Crafts – Many arts and crafts stores, such as Michael’s and Pat Catan’s, offer children’s craft classes during the summer months for reasonable prices.  Some of these sessions require advanced reservations while others are simply drop-in.  Check your local store for all the details.

4)    Kids Bowl Free – Register your kids for the Kids Bowl Free program and they will receive two free games of bowling every day for the entire summer. Yes, every day all summer long. You can’t beat that!

What’s on your list of things to do this summer?

Are You Superstitious?

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This past Tuesday, we officially sold our house in Pittsburgh! We accepted an offer on the house at the end of April…and I haven’t posted anything here since! Not because I’ve been too busy or because I haven’t had anything to say. The truth is that I couldn’t wait to tell you all about our big sales news. But I had a nagging fear that posting the news here (in such a public way before the closing happened), would be tempting fate too much. Now, I don’t usually consider myself to be a superstitious person. I’m not afraid of black cats and I don’t throw a pinch of spilled salt over my shoulder. But I guess the sale of our house was just too big a thing to risk. Thankfully, it is now a done deal and I can happily (and with great relief) tell you that we are officially no longer homeowners!!!

But I’m curious…are you superstitious? Have you ever found yourself afraid to share a piece of good news because you somehow felt that doing so would jinx it?

 

What I Learned in April

 

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1)    All it takes for me to get sidetracked from my  healthier living plan is the arrival of Easter. I was doing so well. I was going to the gym regularly, I was eating salads for lunch, and I was cutting back on sweets. And then Easter came, complete with the kids’ spring break from school and three Easter baskets full of candy. And that’s all is took to fall off the “more exercise/less sweets” wagon. But don’t worry, I’m planning to jump back into my healthier living goals…just as soon as I finish off the last of those Reese’s Peanut Butter eggs!

2)    If you take three kids to Target with you, you’ll spend twice as much money but forget to buy half the things on your list.

3)    Siri can read my emails to me. I love my iPhone but never really knew what to make of Siri. But I recently discovered that Siri can read my emails to me, open apps, and even flip a coin (this one comes in especially handy when the kids are fighting over who has to get their bath first.) Find out even more ways to use Siri here.

4)  My FitBit might not be as accurate as I thought.- Say it isn’t so!  While this article doesn’t mention the Fitbit specifically, it does call into question the accuracy of fitness type wristbands overall.  Hey, maybe I actually do walk 15,000 steps every day but my FitBit is only registering 6,000.  Or maybe my FitBit is saying I walked 6,000 steps but I really only walked 3,000.  UGH!

5)   I’m so glad our family does monthly “Parent and One Child Days” - Having three kids is awesome, but it makes it difficult for Mark and I to spend time with each child individually.  So once a month, on a rotating schedule, one parent gets to spend special time with one kid.  This month was Mom and M. day.  M. and I talked about what she wanted to do for our special day, and settled on Monster Mini-Golf.  It was so much fun!  And it reminded me again of why these special days have been a big success in our family.  Not only do Mark or I get the opportunity to really focus on that one child but that kid gets a chance to have a parent’s undivided attention.  It’s a win-win for everyone.

What did you learn in April?

Today I’m linking up with Emily Freeman at Chatting at the Sky for her monthly “What We Learned” community link-up.

 

 

Creating our own suffering

Raise your hand if you enjoy going to the dentist. Anybody? Anybody? Yeah, I sort of figured we were all in the same boat. So maybe you’ll be able to relate to my feelings when I got a call from the dentist last week reminding me of my appointment scheduled for 10:30 this morning. When they asked me to confirm that I was still coming in, I briefly entertained the idea of cancelling it right then and there. Not because I was busy this morning, but just because I REALLY hate going to the dentist. But I told myself that cancelling the appointment would just mean rescheduling it for another time and so I would only be delaying the agony. So I reluctantly confirmed the appointment and then promptly hung up the phone and began worrying about dreading it. Are they going to find a cavity? Are they going to tell me that I now need to get my wisdom teeth out? How much is it going to hurt this time when they start scraping?! After taking the kids to the bus stop this morning, I walked back inside the house and immediately checked my phone for messages. Maybe the dentist called to reschedule my appointment? Maybe another patient has an emergency and needs my time slot! But, sadly, no messages and no missed calls from the dentist.

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And so I kept my appointment, dragging myself into the dentist’s office at exactly 10:30 and wishing it was already over. At 11:15, I practically skipped out of the dentist’s office. Zero cavities and all my wisdom teeth are safely tucked in my mouth for at least another 6 months. And I thought to myself, Now that wasn’t so bad. And truth be told, it wasn’t nearly as bad as I convinced myself it was going to be. In fact, the days I spent worrying about this appointment were far worse then the 45 minutes I spent sitting in the actual dentist’s chair.

I wonder how many times we all do this to ourselves. We anticipate something will be terrible and so we worry about it…obsess over it….maybe even lose sleep over it…only to discover that it wasn’t nearly as bad as we thought it was going to be. How often do we create our own suffering? We put off appointments, procrastinate conversations, or simply ignore pressing needs because we think it will be difficult, painful, or simply uncomfortable. And then, when we finally, FINALLY, do that thing we’ve been avoiding, we not only realize that it wasn’t that bad, we are actually glad we finally did it.

I still hate going to the dentist, but I’m glad I went today…if only for the comforting knowledge that I (hopefully) won’t need to go back again for another 6 months. What about you? Have you been procrastinating on something you know you should do because you are convinced it will be terrible?

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The Setback Lesson

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It seemed like spring was finally here. The weather was warm and sunny. The cherry tree in our front yard was bursting with blooms. Tulips and Daffodils were popping up all around. We were outside in short sleeves and no jackets, desperate to soak in the warmth of the sun. And then yesterday happened. The temperatures dropped and the snow flurries came. We turned the heat back on in the house last night and I put on a sweater this morning when I got out of bed. In comparison, this small final gasp of winter was nothing compared to the winter weather of the last few months. And yet, it somehow seemed harder to take and more annoying than ever.   It seemed like a step backwards…a setback.

There is something acutely annoying about setbacks. We’ve all been there. You’re making progress, gaining momentum towards a goal. And then, just when you start to feel good about your hard work…SETBACK!

I am currently having an exercise setback. I was doing so well with my goal to go the gym 3-4 days a week. I was starting to lose a couple of pounds and I felt more energized. But then life got in the way with too many commitments and the kids’ week-long spring break. My routine was disrupted and now I haven’t been to the gym in over 2 weeks. To be fair, I realize that 2 weeks isn’t really that long. But it feels like a huge setback to me.

The biggest problem with setbacks isn’t the setback itself. It’s the emotional reaction we have to the setback.   As soon as I saw snowflakes yesterday, I immediately began my mental kvetching.

Oh no, here we go again. Winter is never going to end! A few days of warm weather and now this.

And every day that goes by without a visit to the gym seems like a tremendous failure. I begin to fear that I will never get back into the routine again. I worry that all my hard work thus far will be in vain.

Setbacks have a way of messing with our confidence. They cause even the most logical person to overreact. But before a setback sets you over the edge, it’s important to pause and honestly evaluate the situation.  Yesterday it snowed, but today it’s supposed to be sunny and 50. Hardly a return to the weather of January and February, right? One final gasp of winter doesn’t mean that we’re going to have ten feet of snow. Two weeks without going to they gym doesn’t mean that I’ll never go back again. Setbacks aren’t failures. They are unavoidable parts of change. In fact, they aren’t only unavoidable….they are necessary. Setbacks remind us of where we were before and why we don’t want to return there again. Setbacks keep our egos in check and keep us from getting too overconfident when we’ve made a few good strides towards our goal. Setbacks aren’t an excuse to quit. They are a reason to refocus and recommit. Setbacks aren’t road blocks, just speed bumps in the ever twisting road towards our goals.

 

What I Learned in March

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Can you believe that March is over?  Here’s hoping that April brings warmer weather and not one more snow flake.

I’m linking up with Emily Freeman today and sharing a few things I learned during the month of March.

  1. Taking 10,000 steps every day is tough. Before getting my Fitbit, I just assumed that I was taking somewhere close to 10,000 steps every day. Because come on, it couldn’t be that hard, could it? Boy, was I wrong! I had no idea how sedentary I was until that Fitbit pointed it out to me. I was mortified…but then I was motivated to try and move more during the day. I’m getting much better at walking 10,000 steps every day (or I’m at least getting somewhere close to it) but it’s a lot tougher than I imagined.
  2. I may…occasionally… in certain instances…become a little too upset about a television show. Anyone else watch The Good Wife two weeks ago? I was shocked…no, flabbergasted, when Will Gardner (played by Josh Charles) was killed off the show. How could they kill him? In my mind, Alicia and Will were going to eventually get back together. But now he’s dead?! Poor Mark had to listen to me go on and on about this for hours…well, maybe days…okay, let’s be honest, I’m still not over it! Yes, it’s just a tv show. But come on people! They killed off Will Gardner!
  3. Life is full of surprises. If you’ve visited here before, you may recall that we’ve been planning to move this summer. In case you missed the drama, here’s the summary:  We spent many months thinking that our landlord was going to sell this house, requiring us to either purchase it or move. First we thought we were going to purchase it, but then decided against it and planned to move instead. With only a few months until summer, I was really stressing over this move and worrying about finding another rental in our neighborhood so the kids wouldn’t need to switch schools. Well, guess what! We found out that our landlord is not going to sell right now and is willing to let us stay for one more year. We were equally surprised and relieved by this news. It gives us more time to sell our house in Pittsburgh and allows us to stay put for another year. Whew!
  4. The movie “Footloose” is 30 years old…and Kevin Bacon is still awesome!
  5. It’s good to step outside my comfort zone. The month of March has presented me with a number of opportunities to step outside my comfort zone. Whether it was teaching Kindergarteners about trees or making new friends, I found myself nervously accepting opportunities that were at least slightly intimidating. I won’t lie…I worried and fretted before each and every new and uncomfortable situation, as I am prone to do. But you know what? I didn’t regret a single one. It felt good to stretch and reach outside of what feels normal and easy. It made me realize that sometimes the only thing holding me back is me.

Now it’s your turn!  What did you learn in  March?